6 lines your boss should never cross: unacceptable employment scenarios and what to do if they occur

Most working adults have experienced an uncomfortable situation at work at one time or another; however, your workplace should never be a place where you feel distressed or ill at ease most of the time. You need to take action right away if your boss crosses the line in any of these six areas.

Most working adults have experienced an uncomfortable situation at work. That’s the reality of interpersonal relationships in a professional setting. However, while no work situation is perfect in every respect, your workplace should be more positive than negative, and never a place where you feel distressed or ill at ease most of the time.

This can be difficult if you have a boss who frequently crosses the line of professional behavior, according to the employment experts at Allison & Taylor Reference Checking.

Your boss is crossing the line if he/she:

1. Makes references to your salary in front of other team members. This is private and confidential information, not public. Other employees don’t need to know what you’re being paid, and it’s true regardless of the type of comment that’s made. Whether the boss is saying, “I don’t pay you enough,” or “I pay you too much,” this type of comment will lead to resentment among team members. Broadcasting your earnings undermines your position with the rest of the team. They’ll either think you’re willing to work for peanuts, which ruins their chances of earning more, or that you’re overpaid.

2. Reprimands you in front of other employees. This is a form of bullying, and is never acceptable. While you may have made a mistake that deserves discussion, a good employer will handle this professionally ... and in private. A good boss should also never denigrate your skills with comments such as, “This job is so easy, anyone could do it.”

3. Has unreasonable expectations. This one can be tricky — at times every employee has probably felt that he or she has been given an impossible task. But if you’re consistently receiving unreasonable demands, you need to speak up. It could be a communication issue; perhaps something as simple as unclear directions are bogging you down. Or it could be a case of micromanagement, in which case, you were hired because the boss felt you were qualified to do the job, and it’s fine to remind him or her to let you do it. Just be sure you address the issue in a courteous and nonconfrontational manner.

4. Shares too many personal details. This is a work situation, not the therapist’s couch. A good boss shouldn’t share problems or inappropriate personal details. If you find the conversation often veers in this direction, lead the way by being very brief in your response and then changing the subject back to business. Also, don’t bring your own problems to the office.

5. Makes inappropriate references. Any comment that makes you squirm is one that should not have been made at the office. This includes water cooler jokes, emails, or comments about your physical appearance. Include in this category any type of implication that the boss is interested in a relationship of a personal nature, even if it’s not something you’re entirely opposed to. Workplace romances are NEVER a good idea, and it’s beyond unprofessional to even make the suggestion. All of these things are a sexual harassment lawsuit waiting to happen.

6. Implies that sex, race, age, or religion is a factor in work performance. None of these things have anything to do with your ability to do your job. Suggesting that it might have something to do with your performance is not only unfair, it’s discriminatory. Address any such implication immediately.

If you find that you’re experiencing one or more of these problems regularly, you need to speak to your boss about your discomfort. This isn’t always an easy thing to do, but it’s necessary to maintain a professional working relationship. Keep in mind that he/she may not even be aware that something is bothering you. The key is to open a dialogue that deals with the issues. Approach your boss in a free, calm moment, and let him or her know that you feel there are issues that need to be addressed. Then calmly discuss the issues; discuss the problems in an open and honest manner. Keep in mind that having respect for yourself and your needs lets the boss know you’re there to do your best work. If talking with your boss does not change things for the better, then consider going up the chain of command or to your HR contact/office manager for help.

About Allison & Taylor: Allison and Taylor and its principals have been in the business of checking references for corporations and individuals since 1984. Allison & Taylor is headquartered in Rochester, Mich. For more details on services and procedures, visit http://www.allisontaylor.com/.

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